Are you having Intrusive thoughts?

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Would anyone be willing to share their intrusive thoughts? I hope that’s not a weird question….I’m just wanting to see if my thoughts are the same as others. I know this is normal but I guess I just need to hear it from other moms and how you’re feeling. For myself, I think about “not being here” or “I don’t belong here”. I would never hurt myself it’s just weird to think this way…..I’m sleep deprived with having a newborn and an almost 2 year old. Thank you in advance if you choose to share your story. 💖

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It’s completely normal, but maybe worth talking to your doctor about so it doesn’t get worse! It can be a sign of postpartum depression. I noticed similar thoughts, and even thoughts of my kids being better off if someone else were to take care of them. I experienced those thoughts and doubts after having my second child as I found that transition to be incredibly difficult. I was exhausted having a toddler, then I had a baby which made some days feel impossible. I felt alone so I never reached out to anybody, but I would definitely encourage you to reach out to friends or family and even to your doctor. It’s important to take care of every part of yourself. 💜

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With my first, I had the constant feeling that my son would die. I stayed awake for days watching him sleep because I just thought he’d die if I slept. Every time I drove I thought someone was going to hit us to the point I was scared to drive for weeks. I had a lot of struggles with postpartum anxiety and I really wish I’d gotten help. 
With this baby I have random thoughts but they don’t consume me. I have the thought and then I tell myself it’s extremely unlikely to happen and I can usually forget about it. It’s much better this time because I’m not obsessing over it. I got an owlet sock to help me feel better while she sleepis

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Absolutely. I had dark thoughts terribly with my first. I did have ppd though. I still have pretty intrusive thoughts now with my 5 weeks old and my almost two year old. Just found out she has a breathing birth defect but it should go away eventually. But I think if so many what if’s about her… it’s absolutely insane. I wish I could stop it but I can’t. I’m looking into changing my meds to help but I know they won’t go away completely. With my son, covid was brand new and I was a complete wreck. I couldn’t function normally until I got on some serious meds. Now with this baby and her breathing difficulties, I am constantly anxious about her dying and suffocating. It’s terrifying.. I hate imagining losing either of my babies..

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My intrusive thoughts are more "IS HE BREATHING?". I will think that, and then tell myself "you literally checked 5 mins ago. Hes fine" "BUT WHAT IF HE ISNT." "He's fine" "WHAT IF HE ISNT AND YOU DIDNT CHECK AND NEXT TIME YOU CHECK ITS TOO LATE"
Also I have OCD and struggle with intrusive thoughts anyway, especially about death. My partner fell asleep with the newborn on the sofa the other day for 19 minutes (luckily I came downstairs and work him up) and I can't stop thinking about it and the "what ifs" to the point where I wouldn't leave him with the baby unsupervised, but now I'm working on it. But he has to message me every 10 mins to reassure me hes not asleep 😓

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At this moment I've only had 2 hrs sleep my baby won't stop crying acting as if he's hungry but he's had 4 oz 2 hrs ago and he's been crying since acting like he wants more...but I think 5 oz just seems too much he's 5 weeks old due date Dec 17th. But 2 hrs sleep for me tonight so I'm just screaming bc I just want him to sleep. And all I can think Bout is how my husband has only taken him once during the night to let me sleep where as the other kids he helped alot so thats passing me off even more the fact that as soon as he comes from his night shift that he won't offer or care and I'll still have to take the kids to school driving them on no sleep so yep...im not happy at all at the moment

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