Married with a not so great sex life..

It took a while for me to be able to post this, but here it is. I’m a little disappointed because quickies have become a norm in my marriage. My hubby & I’s sex life started off pretty healthy, but after we had our first child I think the real him came out. I learned so much about him sexually, and so little at the same time. Here’s what I mean..

1. He can only relax if we are in our bedroom.. meaning he will not initiate s*x anywhere else (hotels included) if we are not in our room.. so there goes spontaneity

2. He doesn’t care to be touched.. 🤚 jobs, massages, caressing etc. is the last thing he wants, so when it’s time to be intimate I have no clue what to do with my hands

3. He prefers it before bed.. meaning everything comes before being intimate.. what does that leave me with? A tired husband who just wants a quickie

4. He prefers the same position because “it works for him”..

5. He only likes 💨 jobs if he’s in control.. making it hard for me to really admire the act if I have no control in what’s going on

6. He absolutely does not care for talking about s*x.. no teasing, no sexting, no taking about what we did the night before. Just do it & act like it never happened

7. His “member” does not respond to me.. it doesn’t seem like there is anything I can do to make him er*ct

Overall Im lost on how I can revive him… well us. I haven’t really felt attracted to him in awhile because there’s no fuel to build it. I used to get turned on laying next to him, now he can touch me in me in the hottest places & I still feel cold. I find myself thinking about previous partners how fun s*x used to be. I love s*x, I love making love, I like it all. But Im just so bored with my husband & I feel lost.

I’ve brought this up to him, many times in many ways but he always falls back into his normal pattern.

Sorry, just needed to vent a bit..