Is my value decreasing?

My mother is so mean sometimes. She just says whatever she wants and tries to pass it off as “being wise”. She said that everything goes wrong for the kids that don’t listen to their parents. By this she means that she wants me to do exactly what she wants, when she says. She tries to take so much control over my life because “mother knows best”.

Anyway, I’ve been sleeping over my boyfriends house a lot lately. We love the private time together, each other’s company, cooking & eating dinner together, picking shows to watch together, cuddling at night, it’s just so much fun. We’re currently looking at getting our own apartment but we still need to save a lot more money. Right now he’s going half/half on his rent at home, he’s splitting it with his father. His mother isn’t contributing to the rent because she stopped working due to her job requiring the COVID vaccine which she refuses to take. He’s also paying utilities. So yes, he hasn’t been able to save much. He also thinks that his mom is in no rush to find a job because she sees that they’re able to pay the rent without her (although they are struggling to do so!!).

So because I’m spending all this time having sleepovers with my bf, my mother isn’t too happy about it. She cried the last time I left (I’m literally only like 10 minutes away and I call her everyday). But today she started saying that I need to pick a place and stick too it. She said that this back and forth is making me look bad. She said that I’m decreasing my value as a woman every night I spend there. She also said that if I move in with him & his parents that eventually they’ll get tired of me and that I’ll be in the way. And basically that they’ll hate living with me. I don’t even have plans to move in with them, I just want my own space with my bf.

Im just wondering if anyone agrees with my mother that my value is decreasing as a woman?

- also, I know it’s his mother’s right to refuse vaccination. But now her husband & son are struggling to make ends meet and she doesn’t seem to be looking for a job (which my bf has said himself). I’ve been with him for 4 years and I’ve known him & his family for much longer. I’m not the new opinionated gf that showed up with judgement. Anyway, either stay on topic or get off my post. Au revior 💋