So the area I currently live in is having a huge outbreak right now.. I was going to have a baby shower next month ( my sister and mom were going to plan it) but because of the current Covid numbers it’s just too risky . It’s pretty much now between having nothing or having an online baby shower ( still have games online and set a time for gift drop off’s when people dropped off gift we would give them their prizes). This is my first baby and I was really looking forward to a baby shower. It sucks but with the current situation there’s not many options.

Now that it’s come time to try to start planning things my sister has become extremely extremely difficult.. she don’t seem at all interested and everything seems like a huge deal. She don’t have any interest in any of it at all. She wants to have the shower date/drop off’s on a day i always work. I have multiple dates that would work and I could be home to try to enjoy it as much as possible… but she says “ well im throwing the baby shower for you so you don’t get to decide!” She don’t think it matters if im there or not ( which I strongly disagree). Anytime the shower is brought up she complains.. she thinks the online /virtual option is “stupid”… I finally told her today “ look.. if this is too much for you and you don’t want to do it then we just won’t have anything”. I’m so frustrated and upset because this is my first baby and it should be an exciting time. But instead I feel like a burden . I want to enjoy this experience … but she’s literally making it miserable and making me feel terrible in the process… I don’t want it to feel like I’m forcing someone to have a baby shower for me. I want it to be a fun/ happy time as it should be. I’ve been so supportive of her during her bachelorette,bridal shower , baby showers. And anything I could help with I do. But now that it’s come time for me she couldn’t be bothered… I can’t help but feel extremely hurt and shocked with the way she’s been acting. I tried telling her how I felt and she just gets angry about it. Any advice? Am I being hard to get along with or how should I handle this?

I talked to my mom about it all and she’s just saying for me to plan it all and she will come help me out with it the day of….