I did the big chop some years back and got my natural hair back. I tried to take care of it and I wasn’t the best at it. When I detangled my hair I didn’t use a lot of water and I used a pick because I didn’t think my hair was long enough. A pick definitely wasn’t the best option and I was starting from the scalp. I just recently starting using a detangling brush and I’m starting from my ends and using A LOT of water now. I’m using better products and my hair is growing and feels much better now. My mom has seen my progress too but the thing is.. my mom wants to change my hair type. She has been overall a little weird about my hair. She thinks Im damaging my hair and that I’m being too aggressive. I have always been gentle and my head only hurt twice out of these few years of detangling. And that was when I neglected my hair due to us moving. I forgot what it’s called but she wants to use this product to change my hair type and make my curls looser so that taking care of my hair will be easier. Its not hard to take care of my hair. Everything I have been doing has been just fine and my hair has been growing. It’s just that I’m not always consistent. I know that’s bad but my point is that things really aren’t as bad as she thinks and that if my hair type were different it wouldn’t make a difference. I know she is trying to help but I doesn’t feel like it. She has literally put products that she knows I don’t like into my hair without my permission. I’ll be like “what are you doing?” And she’ll say something like “you’ll see”. “You’ll see” ???? She gon SEE herself in a nursing home if she keeps this up. That’s extra but I’m honestly very upset that I have no say over my hair. I have told her that I already tried the product that she put in my hair and I said that I didn’t like how it made my hair feel. She said that If I let her put the product in for the third time it will be soft. As if Hair Jesus is gonna resurrect and do something. And my hair is soft when its moisturized. Sometimes I don’t even have to re-moisturize because the products i use work that well. My products actually make my hair feel good. Hers doesn’t and we have different hair types anyway. I think she wants my hair to look and be a certain way. That or she thinks I’m struggling and I’m not. I’ll maybe go a week or so without doing anything to my hair. That’s bad but nothing to trip over. I’ll just start over by drenching my hair in water, being GENTLE with detangling, and moisturizing. I don’t see why she is trippin like this. And I feel extremely upset that she’s doing this. I know this is just hair but I feel like this has maybe changed our relationship a little. This isn’t the first time she has tried to help and made matters worse. She is literally going to force me in a chair in a chair and put that product in my hair to change it. She has forced me in a chair before. Im not exaggerating. I dont know what to do.