My family has been making comments that my husband needs to step it up and it’s honestly making me look at him differently. When I have friends over the kids are still with me. I never get free time to do activities and he goes to the gym in the morning while I get up and get my kids and self ready I mentioned something to him about it and he said I do that in the morning when the kids and you aren’t awake and only go to the gym one evening out of the week. Sometimes after work he will get a side job or sometimes he will come home and cook. He does all the cooking. When I’m home he hardly touches a diaper. Our baby sitter (his mom) lives an hour from us so I drive to drop them off every morning before work and then pick them up everyday after work. His car has some issues and he says that’s why he doesn’t want to get the kids but he will drive 40 minutes out the way for a side job. I get it to extent but I feel he’s also making excuses he says well we need the money cause things have been super tight since Covid. My one friend said he completely uses me and she doesn’t know how I stay with him. We both have off on sundays and I’m usually the one to get up make sure the kids are good change their diapers bathe them feed them while he lays in the bed. Sometimes he will help and when I ask him for help he says he will but just keep laying there like he wants to do it when he’s ready. His mom says he needs to contribute more cause he talks about possible kids in the future. My friends and family see how much I do for the kids and he’s a good dad but he never offers me to go do something and he’ll take the kids when we’re off. He doesn’t do any hanging out with friends either. It’s work and come home it just seems I always have that responsibility even when my friends or family are around he’s off in another part of the house just chillin. I’ve talked to him about it but it doesn’t seem to change. Any advice or input is he taking advantage or using me as my friends say. My one friend went as far to say he doesn’t really love me. It hurt me a lot. I needed to vent and need some support