Bored

So i have told my husband what i like and we even tried having a dom/sub relationship but ended that because i mainly felt like i was his slave and he never really did “dom” things. He never goes down on me and never does forplay. Sex has just become a “check off the list” thing and im bored and dont even want to have sex anymore because of his lack of trying. Do i just except this? He is very vanilla and im not but after expressing my wants and needs and him never doing anything just seems like im stuck in a boring marriage. Our marriage is fine and hes my best friend but the sex is boring