I went to visit my friend after months of not seeing each other since she moved to a state next door. Our kids have fun together and we get all along well, and have a lot in common except that she is a full time SAHM and I work full time. Due to pandemic I work remotely and watch my baby also but I have a schedule and routine planned out for baby and I. She has been making indirect comments about how bad it is that moms work and leave their kids in daycare or let other people watch them. There is a famous quote “if you don’t love my kids you cannot watch them.” I wish I could have a husband that makes enough money so that I can stay home and dedicate full time to my home and family but unfortunately it doesn’t work that way for us. On top of that I worked hard to get where I am at in my career. The money is too good to just quit. I am 28 and want to continue build my work portfolio and continue to build wealth but I don’t think I’m a bad mom at all. I am even thinking about finding other ways to earn extra source of income/build a business, even get more certifications in cloud computing to increase my salary. My friend says it cannot be healthy mentally for my child to see mom working so much (I make plenty of time for him though) and I encourage free play which is good for their development. Leaving her house left me with mom guilt and I started acting resentful towards my husband because of it. I explained to him how I’m feeling and he said I should be proud of myself and not feel bad about it. What are your thoughts?

Note: I wake up at 5 to start working and stop whenever my son wakes up at 9. Then I go back online during his nap usually around 2-4. Then back online for another hour and a half in the evening (6-7:30) when my husband gets home from work. I don’t see how that’s not giving enough time to my child.