So ive known my boyfriend for over 20 years, we dated briefly in high school and stayed friends after. I separated from my abusive husband of 8 years this past april.. my boyfriend started seeing eachother in late September and made it official in November. I expressed to him i had a lot of ensecurities from the beginning and wanted totake things a day at a time. I qas in pain the other night and he went out anyways.. we got into it because i was waiting for him to get to my house after to go to the ER. When i called to see how much longer hed be he was getting food with his friends and taking them home.. i got upset because i felt like ge chose drinks and friends over taking me to the ER. so he came over and i argued with him because not only did he go out, but his female bestie was there with them.. shes always all over him and i am always telling him to have better boundaries. So the following day (yesterday) i go to the ER by myself because he was working.. come home, and he comes to stay with me. So lastnight hes telling me he needs time to himself at times.. and wanted to watch the paperview after work alone and he would see me after. Im still in pain but now i have my meds.. which it was my diabetes and a UTI. so i asked him if he could come tonight afterthe paperview like he said, and he turns around and says.. well i want you to get rest, i wasnt planning on seeing you till tomorrow before work. Then goes on to say hes going to a barwith some friends to finish watching the paperview that ends by 1030 ish and wont be back till 1 or 2 when the bar closes.. my feelings are hurt because when he told me last night about the paperview he said its dumb, but it means a lot, and he wanted to be alone to watch it. So why is he going to meet his friends to drink and finish the paperview, knowing im still not well. Am i over reacting or reading into it too much? We have been arguing the last 2 nights ive been sick.. he told me he feels like i wanna be a part of every aspect of his life and has never been in a relationship like this. His exs had an understanding when he went out, no questions, when she went out no questions, but when they spent time together, it was all about them. I cant be like that and be happy. I expressed if he felt the way hes saying, maybe we should try to be friends again..but he says he doesn't want that.. idk what to do or how to feel.