Right or wrong to be upset?

Question

The situation (which I am currently in)
Also, he’s been unfaithful in the past.
Husband is out of town for military schooling (to be an instructor, not basic)
He has barely wanted to talk, FaceTime or text since he left almost a week ago.
He visits his family close to where he’s at, while there refuses to have more than text conversations. Says he is trying to be respectful to them by staying off his phone (understandable)
Last night you text him about how you’re struggling at home with 2 toddlers. He says he’s super tired and is going to bed, nothing else.
Texts you good morning then don’t hear from again for 10 hours. 
He finally facetimes you, and you’re clearly upset. You explain to him that you wished he had at least texted letting you know he was driving back to his hotel.
He makes you feel bad for being upset. And tells you that you’re crazy to be mad about not hearing from him “for a couple hours”
He then brings up how “it’s not like I’m cheating on you”
You explain how you never even mentioned that but ask him why he did. 
He says “good night” @ 6pm and ignores you.
Somethings fishy. Or am I wrong?

Answer

Gaslighting. He has responsibilities (wife and kids) and no matter what, he is responsible for taking care of you guys. He's been unfaithful in the past, and in my opinion someone who's been unfaithful before to you, will definitely do it again! Your husband is horrible. If he really did love you in the first place, he wouldn't have cheated on you. No amount of couples therapy will be able to change what he did to you. So he says he has time to visit and talk to "family" when he has a damn family of his own? Then has the audacity to say "oh I'm trying to be respectful by not being on my phone". You know what? Why doesn't your husband be respectful and let his wife and kids know that he's okay? That's just a bunch of BS! A divorce is needed. Don't stay together just for the kids.

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Maybe I have the definition wrong, but it kind of sounds like gaslighting a little bit? Maybe I’m wrong i don’t know. 
But I do get the sense that he’s being distant from you. And getting really defensive when you’re just trying to express how you feel. With his past it being unfaithful, I too would feel that something is off. Trust your gut hun.

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You don't trust him for obvious reasons. He's giving you no reason to trust him through actions. If he was trustworthy he'd be bending over to show you that but he isn't. This isn't the way to live. You deserve happiness.

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It smells like fish. 
Mine acted similarly during training last year. Made me feel bad for him ignoring me, kept going out with "guys" from class to bars to "study". The kids and I drove to him for a weekend, he said he was so busy and ended the weekend early. 
Long story short, I ignored all warning signs and he ended up having a year long affair and a whole secret life. Come to find out, while he was doing classwork his going out was going on dates with this girl, and several others. 
Just be careful. What it has taught me is if I have a question, ask. I feel like it's fishy I bring it up. I will NEVER live like that again, nor should you.

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I’d be mad.

Right or wrong to be upset?

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