Was i being too harsh?

Just broke up with my bf of 10 years!! I’ve had enough. So on Friday night, had an argument that led to him ignoring me the whole weekend. Just today he texted me “can I call you?”

I was at work but he said he’d call later. We spoke and I broke up with him. I’m crying but I think it’s for the best. For so many years, he made promises about moving in together. He would bring up marriage. He’d bring up a future. But it never happened. I waited and waited. Last time we talked about an apartment, he said we would talk to his godmother who is a real estate agent. I asked him again cause it never happened….

We’d argue a lot where it led to him ignoring me for days. It just got worse. Who wants to be ignored for 2-3 days??? His excuse was he needed space and cooling off.

Sometimes with the arguments he wouldn’t talk to me and therefore wouldn’t see me for 3 weeks. We only saw eachother once a week. I was getting frustrated. I wanted to live with him but it seemed like he just made fake promises

I vented and told him this wouldn’t work out caus i felt like we weren’t moving forward

I wanted kids too he would say he’s too broke

I felt like I was begging for too much. My friends were starting families already and having fun traveling. Our relationship was bad. I had hope that he would make an effort but his response was this:

He even said he didn’t want to live with a monster like me which is why he didn’t bother marrying me …wow…