Is it reasonable to have a conversation with my boyfriend about this?
So my boyfriend and I will have been together for six months later this month. I love him a lot and he is a great boyfriend to me on a mental and emotional level. I’m satisfied in every area besides one. I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t put a lot of effort into making me feel valued. He’s never done the little things. No flowers. No small little gifts. No cute little notes. None of it. He pays on dates about half of the time. But the other half I pay and I’m usually the one planning the dates. There’s never been a time where he’s surprised me or just put in a lot of effort to make me super happy and lately it’s taken a huge toll on me. I notice when we hang out (and we don’t even hang out a lot due to work and school which I feel makes things worse), deep down I feel kind of sad because I know I’m not 100% happy. And while we still have great sex, I feel a bit emotionally disconnected from him. Like the actions are there but the feelings behind them have slightly drifted away a tad.
I want to add that my boyfriend’s life and financial situations aren’t the best. He has controlling parents and a majority of his money is used for things he absolutely needs (while any bit left of that is used for investing and working on a business he wants to launch in the future as he’s very ambitious ). Because of these things, I have been trying to be as patient, considerate, and understanding as possible. But it’s now getting to me quite a lot. Is it reasonable to talk to him about my concerns or should I just leave it alone.
Edit: I talked to him about it and he said that he understands and wants to do better. He was also really happy I told him about it and said he appreciated it. So the convo went well🥰
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