Anything i can do to fix a sexless marriage?

Question

My husband and i have been together 7 years. Before we got married, we were intimate pretty regularly. Then once we moved in and got married it just started dwindling. Now its at the point where we maybe have sex once a year if im lucky.  He has health issues where hes hurting pretty much all the time, and i get that impacts his drive and ability to get it up. He never can get it up when we do do anything remotely intimate. Its only ever just foreplay. Never anything more. He has pills to help, but mostly takes them for times by himself. If he takes one or two for me, again,  lucky.  I feel like he prefers porn to me, like im just some fat worthless thing hes stuck with.  Hes hardly ever proactive to be intimate.  I have to initiate most of the time, and when i do, later on he doesnt want to and im told "Later." He then proceeds to try to be intimate within the last 15 minutes of the night when i have work the next morning...like literally waiting until the last second. Its like sex with me is something he procrastinates on like doing the dishes. He doesnt want to, so puts it off until the last second. 
There's also been times where i walk on on him during his "private time" and offer to join in, and he just says no and that the moments ruined, or i bump him wrong then he gets mad and says the moments ruined. 
Ive talked to him about this but that does no good. Ive tried everything i can think of and nothing. I was planning on surprising him with a kid free weekend away, but hardly seems worth it if all its gonna be is me being pushed off until the last moment. 
Anything? Im desperate.

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I have noticed that whenever me and my SO are getting along and are more communicative then our intimacy is improved altogether. Maybe try to drop the sex discussion for a while and try to talk with him about other things his job, his pain, life altogether, if he can feel that you care for him and not see it as you are nagging on him because he doesn't want to give you what you crave it will change the dynamic in your relationship. You have tried to talk about it with him and he clearly doesn't feel it, so now approach it in a different way. Make him want to be with you, we hardly ever want to be with people who criticize us it doesn't make us feel good about ourselves, and the same way he feels to. Try to restore intimacy between you two differently, sex is only one way to be intimate.

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I think if you’ve honestly spoke with him and nothing has came from it or he’s not willing to make one oz of effort to reconnect sexually then I can’t this improving soon! 
Maybe couples therapy? If he can’t speak with you about the issue cause he probably sees what ever you say as “nagging” typical man! maybe it’s time for professional help and if he won’t go to therapy then you need to tell him if he won’t go and help your marriage there won’t be a marriage end of because you can’t keep doing this with him! 
It’s starting to effect how you feel and view yourself and this little problem has become something bigger as the months/ years go on I can only see it getting worse without intervention 👍🏻

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I'd be mad with the fact that he is being imitate with himself and not even trying with u.
He needs to get off the porn.. u both need to make an effort to connect as a couple.. go on date nights etc.
And he should be taking the pills for u and not for his self pleasure.. otherwise.. he may as well be ur roomate.. pain or not.. there's give and take.

Anything i can do to fix a sexless marriage?

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