Still bullied as a 31 year old woman

I don’t really care what anyone thinks of me anymore. I have a wonderful husband, good job, and an adorable little boy.

I was bullied a lot as a child and teenager. I never really made any friends besides one who I am still friends with today.

As a 31 year old adult I really thought that the pettiness and bullying and talking down to other woman would be over but I guess it’s not.

My husband switched to a different department at work and we went to a cookout with some of the guys he works with. I’m 26 weeks pregnant right now so I wasn’t drinking but everyone else was. I was polite and introduced myself to the wives of the men he works with, tried to have small talk but was completely brushed off. So I decided to go sit next to my husband instead. Which was fine, I still heard them chatting and laughing but didn’t think much of it. My son had to use the bathroom so I took him inside, the bathroom window was open and I could hear the other grown women making comments on how big I am (I’m 5’5” and weigh 150), on my outfit and on my hair. All negative petty things and laughing. Obviously I have extra hormones right now so I started to get upset, I was physically and emotionally bullied a lot and combined with the pregnancy it’s just a lot and brings back bad memories.

I tried to make it look like I wasn’t upset and went outside. They whispered things to eachother and giggled as I walked by. I began to tear up again and asked my husband if we could leave. And he said okay. I didn’t tell him why but I mentioned if he spends time with them again I’d rather not go.

I guess I’m just upset and this brought a lot of emotions up. I don’t understand why women can’t just grow up and why there needs to be this bashing and talking down and pettiness. Looking back I’ve never been able to become friends with any of his friends girlfriends or wives over the years because it’s always the same thing. I have some social anxiety but I always am nice, I take care of myself and I don’t try too hard. I just don’t get why women are like this, yet my husband can go make friends with anyone just because they both like the same color. It also seems so easy for other women, I’m the only one that’s shunned like this.