Is it normal?

Question

I’m dealing with a emotionally abusive husband. Today he hung up on me, so I called him back and asked him why and he said “he can” 😭
I ran to the bathroom to act like I was using the bathroom (I have 3 kids) 
There I began to cry and scratch my face. This is something new. I haven’t ever done this. But it feels like it doesn’t equal up to the pain I’m feeling inside. 💔

Answer

Self harm (the scratching) is a maladaptive coping mechanism. It would be a really good idea to look into therapy and also divorce attorneys. Your husbands actions are unacceptable and based on your reaction, I’m guessing he is often emotionally abusive.

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None of this is normal. You need to leave the situation with your children. Get into therapy. Get your children into therapy. You aren’t the only one experiencing abuse or trauma. You all need out.

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Hanging up on your spouse is certainly rude and it could be part of a pattern that is abusive, but in and of itself it is not abusive.  A childish way to deal with a situation to be sure, but better than him lashing out and baking you names.  Frankly, I'm not trying to victim blame at all but we don't know the entire story.  If this is the worst of his behavior, your relationship likely could be saved with  couples counseling.  As far as your reaction with self harm, I would suggest a therapist who should also be able to help you assess if he is being abusive.

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No, but neither is abuse. You need to leave.

Is it normal?

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