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It took me 14 years and 4 months to get pregnant. I thought I was having a girl, and have always seen myself as a girl mom. I am 15 weeks tomorrow and found out this past week that I am having a boy. There is absolutely ZERO disappointment. It is not something I can even comprehend. How could I possibly be disappointed about anything with this baby growing inside of me. I know gender disappointment is a “thing” but it’s not something I will ever understand or empathize with.
Baby Gender Feelings
So, I'm just about 11 weeks, and obviously, I want to know the gender. But, have you wanted one gender, and got the other and felt disappointed? You'll still love the baby, but there's that small part of you that just kinda deflates? I've had a really hard time conceiving for the past 8 years and I've always wanted a girl, like a deep in the bones kind of thing. Don't get me wrong, a healthy baby is the best outcome I can wish for, it's all I can wish for. But, yea, there's just this small anxiety pit that's been knawing at me...
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I have two boys. I had severe gender disappointment with my second and to be honest with you I still have it even after two years. All I ever wanted was a girl. My partner wants to try again for a girl, but I told him I didn’t want to because I know if I have a third boy I would have a complete break down…and the baby would deserve better than that.
I never had a good relationship with my mother and always associated girls as being daddys girls and boys as being mama's boys. So I was absolutely terrified of having a daughter before I started ttc and once I first started. But after trying for 2-3 years I came to terms with any baby being a blessing.
Totally a normal feeling for a lot of us. I’ve always wanted a daughter since I first found out I was pregnant with my oldest 13 years ago. I am now pregnant with our fourth and last boy. Each time I’ve gone through gender disappointment and honestly each time was a little harder. I always figured, okay, this one HAS to be my girl. Don’t get me wrong, I adore being a boy mom, they are an absolute blast and I’m getting to experience new things in life I never did because I grew up with all sisters. I just always imagined myself with at least one girl in my house.
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Don’t let anyone make you feel like your feelings are wrong or invalid, I see a lot of that on here. It’s obvious all of us want a healthy baby regardless of gender, people don’t need to point that out.❤️❤️
El
Thank you. I thought I was alone in that feeling, especially surrounded by friends and family that have both boy and girl. Makes it hard to talk about.
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