How to calm rage against your husband

Lol so my husband makes me feel rage, so so often that it’s probably not that great for me. This rage comes from him not helping me around the house, he never cooks or plans meals, he never offers to help me even tho he sees my overwhelmed and drowning in responsibility. Instead he stares at his phone and watches TikTok for hours. He does put our 2 year old to bed but that’s about it. At the moment I have been really sick with a bad cold for about a week, it’s only getting worse but still he isn’t helping me with anything. I’m fact because I’m home fro work he expects me to walk the dog, and pick our child up from daycare. He’s off work at noon btw so he’s home plenty early. My job is. 9-5 when I actually am at work. I hate feeling rage and I hate feeling resent toward him but I’ve talked to him about helping me more and he says he will and then never follows thru. It’s how he was raised unfortunately but this is 2022 and that kind of mentality doesn’t sit with me. I grew up in a family where men and women were equal and did equal the amount of work. Any tip on calming rage? I know talking to him about how I feel is one thing but I’m looking for other tips like meditation, music, something calming. I used to be the most laid back person and now I feel so angry all the time.