Would you be upset?

I had a baby last year and because of covid restrictions, I could only bring one person and chose my son’s dad. When it happened, my mom would always say how she wished she could be there, told everyone else who asked that she wished she could be there, etc. Well now I’m 32 weeks with my second baby and they changed the hospital restrictions. Right now, I can have two visitors. I’ve invited her to be the second visitor for a while now and she always instantly accepted and acted so excited. She also said she would take my dog if I ever needed hospital time.

Super last night, like midnight, I was admitted bc I started to show signs of early premature labor and I called her. I asked her if she could/wanted to visit - she said she couldn’t because it was so late, it was far for her (30 minutes away), she was tired, and offered the morning instead. Which I thought sounded reasonable so I didn’t think anything of it. So I asked her about the dog and my boyfriend even offered to drop the dog off with a crate and food. She said she didn’t get to talk to my dad and needed to check with him first. She said “why don’t you just have him take her out and then she’ll be good for the night until you have better idea” and later laughed and asked why I was asking her about taking the dog, as if we never had the conversation. When I reminded her, she played it off like “yeah, I know, I’m just saying”.

It’s now 2 the next day and I feel like she’s just giving me the run around on even visiting. In the morning she asked how I was and then said she had a headache and was going to take a nap. About an hour later, I told her I missed her and wanted her to be here. She answered right away and said she missed me too and wanted to be there and apologized. So I told her that if driving was the issue still, my boyfriend offered to drive her and all she said was “well that’s a nice offer”. I said “so what do you think” and she said “well it’d have to be later bc I have 2 appointments soon, so later tonight instead”. Appointments that she had to have known about earlier too but never mentioned. If she doesn’t want to come, it’s whatever, but I wish she’d at least tell me. She’s commonly flakey so I guess I shoulda expected it but I didn’t expect it for something major like this.