Do I deserve time alone outside of the home?

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I dont have friends to discuss this with but i want to know if I'm being unreasonable. I have 15 month old twin girls and life is very stressful for me with being a new mom, working full time, and being in a struggling relationship. Eveytime i leave the house, my bf has something to so. "Your moms gonna be gone 3 hours" or make it quick or just rushing me. If I'm gone for 3 hours I went to a lot of different places because at this point I forced myself to stay in the house all week because I don't want to hear his mouth. So the day where I do go out and live my life it takes some time. I'm an introvert so I enjoy alone time. He thinks there's no way I can be gone 3 hours, he assumes I'm cheating. I'm a woman and some of us like to shop. If I had friends I'm sure I would have shopping trips sometimes.  I'm with the twins alone all the time and I would never complain if he chose to you know go do something for a few hours I probably would be happy because hes annoying lol Today I went to CVS, the bank and to target, probably gone 2 hours. I was getting food, supplies, decor for the house. I dont even shop for myself really. He called twice asking me how long I would be joking that he was making sure I'm alive and when I got home he called me making jokes about me sitting in the car. Like I can't even sit in the car. Am I being unreasonable being gone for 3 hours or so once a week if that? I'm always paranoid when I leave looking at how long I've been gone, telling myself what I can't do because of time. I think it's ridiculous.

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Every mother deserves alone time! Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you stop being a human. Your bf sounds like he doesn’t want to be with the kids or he is extremely insecure. Continue taking time for yourself life is hard enough with being a robot 24/7. He needs to chill out seriously 3hrs isn’t even long enough to shop.

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After the first sentence I was done .Some of these men need to be lucky we even want they air headed asses .🙄 Girl forget him

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He would be livid with me then.  I take full on vacations, leaving my 1-year old and 4-month old home😂 Yes, you deserve alone time, friend time, partner time, etc.  Just as he deserves to do what he wants too.  I’m sorry he’s giving you a hard time.

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That’s not healthy. You shouldn’t be feeling anxious when you leave the house, because of him. That’s very, VERY unhealthy. And quite concerning. 
You are allowed alone time, it’s not a crime.

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Yes. You deserve time to yourself. And you need to be aware that what he is doing and saying is emotional abuse. It’s not ok. He’s guilt tripping you and gaslighting you. You don’t need to put up with that.

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I would just go out without feeling guilty. I used to feel bad if I got out of work early that I didn't rush to get my kids early from daycare. Then I realized I deserve a break, even just to sit outside in the sun and read for an hour alone. Just go and enjoy yourself. Tell him to only call you if it's emergency. If he doesn't respect your time and your boundaries, then he's a selfish dick.

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Fathers that don’t want to take care of their own children 🤮🤮🤮 god forbid he has watch his own kids for a couple hours. I would literally tell him to suck it up and figure it out. You have just as much on your plate as he does on his.

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Yes, everyone deserves alone time.
It's different how much you're able to give due to life situations, but of course you should be able to have some time alone. My husband is an introvert as well, and I try to take our daughter out of the house as often as possible to give him some alone time. I'm an extrovert so I need to see others to thrive and need a lot less alone time.

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My husband is the same way. Gets upset if i am gone longer than 30 minutes by myself. I went yesterday to pick our daughter up from my mom's house(15 minutes from our house) and i ended up talking to my mom for like 45 minutes about the upcoming concerts were going to and then i had to go to the store to get dinner, so i was gone maybe an hour and a half at the most and this man has messaged me on fb and called me asking where i am at and what i am doing. Gets frustrating sometimes when you are literally running errands and you can't even get them done because you are so worried you are taking too long or that your phone is going to ring and you're going to have to play 20 questions with your spouse.

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If I didn't do that once in awhile I would lose my mind haha

Do I deserve time alone outside of the home?

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