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I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now and we still haven’t established a relationship and I won a relationship and and I told him this and he doesn’t want one right now because he thinks these things his messages below. Want to get opinions and advice on everything that he has said and what you guys think I should do should I stay or go? What kind of vibe do you get from him and what he says? 
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Domt force a relationship when the other person clearly doesn't want to be in one. You're just hurting yourself.

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I think you have to accept he just isn't comfortable getting into a relationship right now.

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I mean, hes being very open and honest with you. He's telling you he doesn't want a relationship right now.
How long have you been seeing him - youre coming across very pushy in your texts which absolutely won't work here. If youve not been seeing each other that long (under 6 months) then I'd back off from the relationship press, have fun and see if it figures out in a couple of months. If you've been seeing him a while (over 9 months) and this is his take then its time to walk away.

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Sounds like he doesn’t want a relationship, he just wants a friends with benefits and trying tell you that nicely.

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He doesn't want a relationship.

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You know what you want and what he wants. Now you make a conscious decision to stay around with someone who will not commit to you or you move on to someone else who will want the Same things you want. My 2cents is to move on. You're not gonna find someone else while still holding on for something that may or may never happen. If he changes his mind, he knows where to find you. He sounds honest enough to let you move properly should you choose to but he's not gonna stop you from given him all the gf benefits after he's warned you he ain't gonna be in a relationship.

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It sounds like you’re begging him to love you and be in a relationship with you and he doesn’t want that, he’s telling you literally he’s not happy with his life, all he’s doing is working all the time, he’s telling you he doesn’t wanna relationship right now, clearly this is something you want, and it’s not gonna be with him. It’s bad timing for him, he’s content being friends with benefits or whatever else, and keeping things casual but he does not want a relationship, he may not want one with you ever, and he’s just softening the blow, if he wanted to be with you in a relationship with you he would be. So either be content with how things are, or walk away if you want more because it’s not gonna be with him. He’s literally telling you. If you’re looking for a relationship it’s not gonna be with me, maybe down the road like he said, but not anytime soon, and you’re pressuring him, it’s probably just gonna push him away. He wants you to let the topic go, he doesn’t open up because he’s probably not seeing the potential with you right now. Like you said people make the effort for what is important to them. He doesn’t see the potential with you right now, he may not see it at all, and you begging him just makes you look desperate, clingy, needy, etc. never beg somebody to love you. But clearly you were looking for something that he cannot offer you. So either wait it out and see if things get better in his life, but I wouldn’t wait for anyone, I would live your life and find what you need, because he’s not gonna be giving it to you and you’re going to get open￼￼ and left hanging. He’s clearly not looking for marriage anytime soon, he’s not looking for a commitment, he’s not looking for kids, relationship, etc. and if that is what you were looking for it’s not gonna be with him especially anytime soon. He’s giving you blow off lines, you’re good enough to have sex with, you’re good enough to mess around with, be friends with, but you’re not good enough for a relationship and that’s what you need to understand. You are not what he wants or he would be jumping over the moon for you. A man pursues, makes the effort, he’s consistent, for what he wants. Relationships are what you make them. If you’re fine with how things are, and not bring up the relationship matter again, then stick around, if you want more, then I would not waste your time with him. Wait for somebody who wants the same things as you. Everyone is in a different place in life, and wants different things. Right now he’s just looking for something casual. He’s not looking for a committed relationship. Sorry￼￼￼

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I'll be honest I'm getting the vibe that he isn't happy with himself and where he's at with his life right now. I mean that's pretty considerate if you think about it, yes people can help eachother grow but if one isn't well happy at all with themselves at the moment it really could drag things down. I'd give him some time, maybe have some talks about work and possible ideas/things he could make to have more free time to enjoy life. Also there's a point where if he truly wants to be with you he will make you a priority. You can't wait around forever no but I have been in his position and it could result in causing problems within the relationship when really he wasn't happy with himself before.

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Please move on from him .

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If he wants to he will. You want something he isn’t willing to give, find someone who will. Very much bad vibes from this.

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