*Posting this in another group just for different opinions! TIA!*

So a little back info, my bf and his family came here from a different country when they were young and they only have each other. All their cousins, aunts, uncles grandmas grandpas all that is still in his home country. So they're a close family in general but I've noticed his mom is super affectionate with him. He's gonna be 24 this year but she likes to do his laundry, cooks and bring

him his food, cleans his room, etc etc. I've spoken up a lot about that because you're grown enough to do it yourself ya know? So anyway she would do things like touch his butt and laugh and it makes my bf really uncomfortable. When they hug it's for a really long time and she like rubs his back and stuff and idk I can kinda look past that it just seems like a loving mother. But today she came into the room, she usually knocks but this time she knocked and just walked in and my bf wasn't wearing a shirt. He was like "MaMa!" And she

laughed and went out. But then she came back in and was kinda teasing/ pointing out his body sort of in a "ooh la la" way?? And I'm like wtf that's weird. But all these things she does makes me so annoyed and mad. And I think part of it is that I wasn't shown affection at all, I was emotionally and physically abused as a child, and my mom definitely had me doing laundry, cooking and

cleaning at like age 9. I'm trying to figure out if this stuff is weird or if I'm just emotionally jealous in a way? I don't feel jealous I feel annoyed by it all. What do you guys think?

Edit/ I also forgot to mention that if he even brings

up him and I moving out she gets really upset and

starts crying…and she says no no please don't and

stuff like that. Which I can kinda also get bc she

worries about the only family she has here.but

we're getting to a grown up age he can't stay

forever.

Edit 2/ She is not a single mother, her husband, my boyfriends father has been there all his life. BUT he does not show her any affection at all. I’ve never seen them kiss or hug or anything close to that. She does everything for him down to putting his socks on his feet..