Threesome with a couple

Ok how would I put this?? I might as well tell y’all about myself and my boyfriend. And how we are in a relationship first. Will be long post bc I’m struggling and really don’t have anybody to talk to about this w/o them being stuck up also. So please, if you have the time, to read and respond ❤️🥺

So I can be the jealous type. I’ve lightened up a lil over the last 5 years of us being together. I’m emotional to certain things. Insecure a lil still. Not happy about my body yet. not 100% open minded yet.

My boyfriend was the jealous type but he lightened up wayyy more than I did over the years. He’s not really the emotional type. Not so much insecure anymore. Open minded.

In our relationship, I’m usually the stuck up one. It’s my 1st relationship so I’m still learning till this day of my do’s and don’t’s in a relationship. He’s the one talking to me and opening my eyes to a lot of things. Honestly, he’s helped me be a better person…. Ofc, we did our dirt but that’s in the past now (no sexual activities involved) We really love each. He’s my first with everything. Not with him but sex. (According to him, I’m his first also).. we Don’t want anybody else. Want marriage. And we say, if we ever decide to end things, we’ll always be there for each other and forever our first loves… ok those some things about our relationship. Also, And we have a child together, we both know that he’ll always be there for her and me time. Regardless if he’s in another relationship.

Now here comes the threesome convo…

Lil more than a year ago, he’s mentioned having a threesome. I said no, bc I can’t see myself just seeing my boyfriend f**k another woman and him touching her how he’s supposed to be touching me. I understand setting boundaries but have there ever been a threesome with the girl doing to me only? I can’t see myself eating puss y, him eating another puss y (said he’ll never eat a random girl puss y.. took after 1-2 yrs till he started eating mine).

Anyways… he stopped, occasionally he’ll ask and I’ll respond with the same answer. Now for the past couple months he’ll joke about it which makes me mad. Now it’s getting serious… he now says having a threesome is specifically a bonding thing to us( me and him) and he wants to experience things strictly with me. And that will let him know that nobody can’t have the same type of bond we do and then he’ll marry me…. He wants to live his life to the fullest bc he gets one life as this person only. Which I agree but I just can’t see myself having a threesome with him. If I ever have one it’s going to be with who I’m not in a relationship with. Which I told him that.

Soooo… now….he says he’s tired of not doing what’s natural to him (looking at females, just casually talking to females) and he’s going to stop being nervous of doing shi t and he wants me to be there with him say for instance getting twerked on by somebody else and I’m there encouraging it, say how pretty somebody is, compliment their body, etc. And if I don’t then that’s fine he’s gon continue…such as him being loyal and he should be almost like rewarded and we have a threesome occasionally but since I don’t want one, the. He’ll just f**k another woman just for sex…. So now I’m heart broken. We don’t want to leave each other bc we don’t want to start back over with somebody and he “doesn’t want another man getting what he taught me” (

What should I do?

What type boundaries you and your significant other set? Since y’all read some of what type of people we are, what are some suggestions.

If feel like I’m being pressured into doing one for the sake of our relationship. And I don’t want him f**king somebody else bc of my decision. Bc I may decide to have one eventually with him but as of right now, it’s a no….