Can you set your baby down?

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How long can you set your June baby down and do another task? Such as fold laundry, go to pee, heat up lunch in the microwave... I can't do any of these things without my June baby totally losing it. He has been this way since day 1. I'm not sure if maybe I have unrealistic expectations? Or what am I doing wrong here?

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I’m sorry to report that my June baby is extremely chill and he can play independently for really nice lengths of time.  I do think it depends on personality, though. He’s just always been an easy going guy (I like to think this is the universe throwing me a bone since I’m 41 with a 9 month old 🤣). It’s nothing you’ve done wrong. I would just try setting up safe “docking stations” around the house for when you need to do something. I have the pack n play in the living room, a upseat in the kitchen, pack n play in the living room, etc. That way you can stash babe in sight when you have to do something and hopefully they stay more levelheaded since they can see you.

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My first was like this. This baby tho is so independent. He likes to play alone.

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I cannot set him down when he's sleepy. Other than that, he doesn't like to not be able to see someone.  Fixing a bottle at 6 a.m. barely awake ,holding him is usually a complete mess.

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My little just likes to crawl everywhere so when I set him down he’s off trying to find his sister.

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Mine is pretty independent so the problem for me is making sure he doesn’t get into anything he’s not supposed to 🤣

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Mine just started having a major issue with it, he’s a week or so into Leap 7. If I don’t carry him around he crawls after me and clutches my leg. It makes things a little harder but I don’t mind, it’s temporary. 
He does still play independently off and on throughout the day for 1-3 minutes at a time. But even if he’s not feeling clingy, ever since he became mobile he can’t seem to make it to 5 minutes without a safety intervention from me 😆
After they conquer walking and learn to respond to simple commands, in 2-6 months, then you can really start training them to play independently for longer and longer stretches which is good for both of you. 
For now you can try to establish some routines like “All done with our meal! Here are some toys you can sit and play with while mommy cleans up” (and by toys I mean a wooden spoon and metal pot or a large plastic cup) 🤪
If baby learns that every day there are a few times a day where you plunk him down with toys and expect him to entertain himself it really does become routine. But baby steps, 30 seconds-1 minute may be all they can manage for a few days or even weeks but gradually, especially if you just verbally reassure and/or redirect to the toys instead of physically soothing or picking baby up at first, gradually that 1 minute will stretch out.
You can also experiment with leaving the room. Tell baby where you are going and for how long, then make a big happy entrance when you come back. At first just quickly going to another room and coming back, then for longer and longer stretches.
Best of luck and it’s all temporary!!!

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My daughter is very independent unless she isn’t feeling good. Then it’s “I want mommy”, and I get nothing done. Today was an easy day where I got laundry and dishes done.

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My kiddo goes from me literally holding her while I use the bathroom all the way to letting her play in her room (it’s safe and I check in regularly) by herself for like half an hour 🤷‍♀️ I find stuff for her to do with me during clingy days, my little likes to sit in the laundry basket beside me and play with the socks I fling in for example

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Depends on my baby's mood. Sometimes she's hungry or cuddly and does NOT want to be set down, and other times I can set her in her pack and play and do something while being in the same room and she'll play on her own or watch me....But heaven forbid if I make eye contact with her, she immediately cries for me to pick her up.

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1st was like that (2nd is way more chill). It got better once she started walking and could go where she wanted, but she still requires A LOT of interaction and engagement. I just started having her ‘help’ with tasks, takes forever but gets done eventually and she still loves helping at almost 3.

Can you set your baby down?

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