bf going soft every other time we do the deed/:?

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so lately, he will eat me out and stuff and then we will start doing our thing … then half way through our session he will go soft.. it’s almost everytime.. it makes me feel like he’s not attracted to me, maybe not even love me anymore.. i just need advice, maybe i’m boring in the bedroom.. any advice anyone could spare?

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Understandable but this is HIS own issue, not yours. Has nothing to do with you, communicate with him and see what’s up.

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Have you spoken to him about this?

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My now husband had that issue when we first started dating, turns out he had a bad porn addiction and just couldn’t keep it up for an actual person. It took a lot of work on his part and a lot of being very supportive and forgiving from me but four years later he’s officially porn free and our sex is amazing

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Could be nerves or stress

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He’s causing it in his head.  
Last thing you need to do is draw his attention to it.  Definitely let him sort this out.  
Just be very very supportive and say you don’t care and “we can always try again later babe. Smile and kiss him.” Act very pleased with the oral and say how much you enjoy that.   And say next time it’s all about me.  Just eat it. I don’t feel like having sex but I wanna fun on your 👅.  Or whatever.  
Rake the performance pressure off.  
Some times if you’re in your head as a guy and especially if you’re eating her out for 15-20 mins or whatever, it can be difficult if you’re not still super turned on to stay hard like your 16 years old! 
 Moan a lot. Keep him super turned on and then tell him to make sure he believes it all about you and have him expect not to have sex and I bet he will have a raging hard on and let things heal.   
Do not bring this up as an issue!!!!!   Men do not do well.  If he mentions it just say yeah.  Say something like it’s not unusual, no big deal.  You’re not going anywhere etc. etc.    Let him work through it and build his confidence again.

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My husband has the same issue, so I spoke with him about it, and we found out together that 1. He needed to drink more water 2. His knees (from working long hours) would bother him durning sex and 3. He would lose focus sometimes and would just lose it. Most of the time, it’s not a You problem. Most of the time it’s something else that’s going on. Communication is key with these things.

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Porn and masterbation don't help men in their sexualrelationships. Proof right here in this thread.

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We had this issue for a couple months. I didn’t want to bring it up because I didn’t want him to feel bad- but it would have been fixed much sooner if I had! He was working from home and jacking off 2-3 times a day and then couldn’t stay hard for sex at night.  He stopped masturbating as frequently and the issue went away.
There’s a lot of reasons it could happen, some emotional and some physical.

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My ex did this and it was because he had a porn addiction 🙁

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I’m literally dealing with this exact thing right now. He tells me he is just stressed, overwhelmed, distracted. Etc. but has no issues if I’m giving him head or a handjob…. It makes me feel like I’m not attractive.

bf going soft every other time we do the deed/:?

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