Postpartum anger?

Question

I’m 6 weeks postpartum and I’m a SAHM. I’ve noticed that I’ve been really angry don’t get me wrong I love my baby and I love that I have the opportunity to raise her but I just feel myself getting angry all the time. I tend to take it out on my boyfriend and I hate it. I’m with my baby all day he doesn’t get home til late and by the time he does get home he’s really only with her for about an hour other than that he just eats, showers & sleeps while I take care of her. I’ve just been crying in the bathroom after they’re both asleep and just think about how can be angry bcs my daughter doesn’t want to sleep and let me pump when it’s not her fault and I just feel guilty for getting mad. Even through out the day I just cry bcs I can’t get her to fall asleep or know what she wants. I feel like I’m failing her as a mother It’s just been really hard taking care of her alone and idk what to do I’ve tried talking to my boyfriend but I don’t think he fully understand he just says I’m doing good & nothing else

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Rage is a symptom of postpartum depression that a lot of people(and doctors) don't really talk about, and the crying all day definitely sounds like ppd. You should talk to your doctor and get evaluated for it, and don't be afraid to reach out for help from family and friends if you're overwhelmed during the day while he's gone. I sure wish I had asked for more help.

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Does your boyfriend help at night? If not, that's a perfectly legit reason to feel angry.

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Hang in there mama ❤️👍it’s maybe the hormones that take some time to settle again. Frustration and powerlessness are also pretty normal feelings as in the very first weeks it’s just “feed, change diapers, hold close” and repeat 😓😩 the baby is now starting to look at you, smile and express more and more clearly of her needs (sometimes me and my baby girl seem like playing hot and cold in guessing about her needs 😂😅)

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1) I started seeing a therapist for my postpartum issues.
2) Tell your bf you need help. I also had to pump after feeding my firstborn due to supply issues. My firstborn also took his time feeding, sometimes over an hour all together, and then I’d have to pump and do it all again in less than an hour, on a 24-7 basis. That kind of sleep deprivation is not sustainable for anyone. My husband bottle fed the baby once a night so I could get an extra hour or two of sleep at night.
3) Instead of staying up to pump, maybe use something like a Haakaa to catch/suction out letdown milk from the breast that baby is not nursing on.

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My baby cried a lot for the first 8 weeks. For mine, he was either hungry or gassy and needed to be burped more. Also, try to keep your diet free of gassy foods and that'll help with your milk. You'll do great, it's a learning curve! You might have some ppd, so check in with your in.

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I second the comment about postpartum depression. That was one of my symptoms.

Postpartum anger?

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