How to go on? My husband is gone

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My husband had a heart attack today and passed away. We’ve been married 6 months and have our 2nd baby on the way. Together we have 5 children and now I don’t know how to tell my baby that her daddy isn’t coming back. How do I go on? What do I do? How is he gone?! What’s ok to do and not ok? Nothing feels right or real. Everything feels like a weird alternate universe and I’m waiting to wake up from it but it’s not a dream. 
Help! Idk what to do.

Accepted Answer

In my parents funeral home we always recommended books for children that can help expl

ain and also below the Australian government has a handy page about how to talk to your children about death.

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/connecting-communicating/tough-topics/death-how-to-talk-about-it
Best of luck ♥️♥️

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Im gonna tell you what my Nana told me shortly before she passed- 
Don't mourn the "life" that is no longer there to live. Instead- celebrate the life you got to live with them for the time you were blessed to have, the moments the two of you got to share/create together (just the two of you and those made with other loved ones as well), memories you got to make- especially those memories that the two of you shared with only each other.... cherish those deeply and never let them go, the children that the two of you came together and created.. as well as the children you both had blended into a loving family as if you both had created them too.... keep in mind that he will live on through them now, and always, ALWAYS make sure ALL of those children never forget who their daddy was before he passed and that he loved them very much!! Dont cry and express the pain of loss.... (easier said than done I know) by that I don't mean you can't feel the pain or express it- infact I mean the opposite. Never bottle those feelings up BUT also make sure that some of those tears are shed while smiling and laughing with your children and loved ones reminiscing of the times you all shared with him. 
Now is the time for you to celebrate the life he got to live, not mourn the loss of it.... because if you're only mourning the "loss of life left to live" then you're never truly celebrating, and appreciating the life that he was blessed to live.... no matter how long or how short that life was, you should always cherish it and celebrate it instead of focusing on "what could have been".
Its going to be hard.... and if I can suggest ANYTHING  as far as your, and your children's next steps to healing- make sure you know who you're support systems is, and you start the process of therapy  ASAP  for both you and your children, especially the children because they need professional help processing this in a healthy way and actually understanding. 
Group and solo therapy sessions combined would be ideal.... 
I'm no professional, and I know nothing I could ever say or do to make this hurt any less or make it any easier.... but sometimes you just need to vent.... and if you ever wanted to talk or just vent/scream feel free to DM/PM me and I'll be happy to talk or lend an ear.. I've dealt with my fair share of loss of all kinds so I'll always be open to help however I can 💙 
P.S. 
I am so sorry you're going through this.... hold those little ones and loved ones close and you'll help eachother through 💙

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I lost my first husband suddenly momma! Our kiddos were 3,1 and 3 months old so I know your pain! If you need to reach out to talk don’t hesitate to message me! 
I’m sorry! I’ll be praying for your strength and comfort during this difficult time!

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I’m so sorry. 
This feels very fresh so I almost hesitate to share the advice you asked for, but here is mine:
As an elementary teacher we are taught that being direct and honest is best to avoid confusion. As hard as it will be, try to use the word “dead” instead of passed away or some other euphemism for dead. It’s better for them to be clear on the fact that he’s gone. 
Also, don’t assume emotion. They may not process it all the same speed and some will be obviously devastated while others may take weeks, months, or years to really show the pain of the loss. You can say something like “however you’re feeling right now is okay, and I’m here for you no matter what.” Then you aren’t labeling their feeling for them. 
Big hugs.

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I'm so sorry you are going through this loss. 
I think it's so shocking and unbelievable at first when you couldn't have expected it. Give yourself time to go through that phase of grief and hopefully you can seek support through others in your life. 
And move forward at your own pace, let yourself process this. 
It takes a long time and loosing someone so important is definitely life changing and takes a long time to come to peace with or accept. Right now being able to live without them may be a completely foreign thought, and it's okay to go through this and take your time. Do what you need to do & be patient with yourself. 
Eventually it really does get easier. 💙

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I am so sorry. Whatever you are feeling is so ok. I am so sorry for your loss I can’t imagine

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So sorry for your loss. You have to find the strength to go on for your children. Look to them for hope and inspiration. I pray you find peace through the midst of your trials!

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I am so very sorry for your loss 💜

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I am so sorry for your loss momma

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So sorry for your loss I can’t imagine how you are feeling 🤍🤍

How to go on? My husband is gone

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