Numb pain to losing virginity

So I tried losing my virginity these last couple times and I was in major pain. Went to the gyno and couldn’t even sit through a vaginal check up with that metal

Thing they stick In you. She prescribed xylocaine numbing cream but so far still no success after applying the cream we use KY JELLY lube but it still hurts. Are there any pills I can use to numb me from the waist down? Or anything? I just need to get over the first time !! Pls help