Visitors After Baby

Long post, sorry in advance 🙂

I’m a FTM expecting in a couple months. I really want opinions and advice on visitors in the hospital/at home. My SO will be the only one in the delivery room with me, but his family is insisting on “camping out” in the waiting room while I’m in labor and seeing her as soon as she’s here. I really don’t want a lot of people coming in as soon as baby is born. I feel like this is a special moment for us as first time parents and don’t want them coming straight in and yanking baby away from us. I plan to breastfeed, and I’ve read where the “golden hour” is very important and I feel like it would be awkward to try having her latch while in-laws and grandparents and cousins are staring at me waiting to hold the baby.

(The hospital allows visitors between from early morning to late at night, with only 2 hours of “quiet time” for the parents and baby. Unfortunately there aren’t any COVID restrictions at the hospital I’ll deliver at except “don’t come if you’re experiencing so-and-so symptoms.”)

Also, how soon did you all have visitors in the home? I’ll be recovering from having a baby, we’ll both be adjusting to a whole new routine, and I don’t want our house to have a revolving door. How did you establish boundaries with everyone in a nice way? I feel that whenever things such as “no kissing my baby” are brought up, I get smart comments and eye rolls and they laugh it off. Not to mention, MIL has been extremely obsessive and overbearing during the entire pregnancy. (Ex: Told EVERYONE about our pregnancy before we announced and bragging because she’s going to be a grandma, bought nothing for us but is purchasing everything for a nursery at her house, buying grandma books and keepsakes for her but nothing for me or our home, etc.)