I’m on a very stable relationship. I bought a house on my own last year and then my boyfriend moved over with me. We’ve made the place our home, and finally are at a place where we can both talk about our feelings without our emotions taking control. He’s at an important moment of his career and I just quit a job that payed very well to open my own business. We’re very happy where we are right now and where looking forward to buying a van and starting to travel over the next few months. One of my tubes is blocked and I was told conceiving would probably be hard in the future. We never have sex on my fertile days and try to stick to a natural contraception method. But somehow this month our calculations didn’t work and I found my self with a late period. I’m two days late today, so I insisted we get a test, I’ve been craving things and my sense of smell has been a bit heightened, but those are things that tend to happen with pms for me. The only thing that had me doubting was that I tend to spot or have headaches before my period, and there was no sign of my period starting. I got a digital clearblue test, that said almost straight away “pregnant +3”. When we were heading home, before I did the test my boyfriend said it wasn’t probably the time to have a kid, that we weren’t at our best moment for that. He has had 2 abortions in the past with past relationships, and I know how he feels about that option. The thing is, I’ve always wanted kids. And I actually feel it might be a good thing, even if at first I just started trembling because I really wasn’t expecting it. We were conscious that our birth control method could lead to this, but I also thought he’d think differently if it were to happen. I don’t want to have the “what now” conversation, because I fear he’ll bring up the abortion option as the first option. We don’t have family around as we live in another country, so that part might be the hardest, and I’m not sure I feel I can talk about it with my friends right now. I just need to vent here and hear some advice of anyone that has gone through a similar situation. And just to be clear, I know I have the final say and that it is my body and nobody, even the father of this baby will tell me what to do. But, he is the father and I feel to a certain extent he also has a right of giving his opinion. Any advice on how to approach this?

Thank you ❤️