How do you deal with your partner having more sexual experience than you?

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I’m very inexperienced and only been with 2 people. My boyfriend on the other hand has had sex with many people to the point where I can say he fucked the whole city lmao jk but seriously. I’ve gotten somewhat past it and accepted him for his past but it still gets me sometimes when the topic gets brought up.

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It’s the past, leave it there.

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Why? I mean, it's better for you if he is experienced

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It literally doesn’t matter. Don’t make this non problem into a problem

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Simple, you don’t bc it’s none of your concern. A high body count really means nothing. It’s in the past which I’m assuming had nothing to do with you so just refrain from letting HIS past affect the present. Don’t worry about being inexperienced! Just be present in your relationship and explore your sexual experience with your bf

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I understand how this could mentally affect you however you need to take control and focus on the present and view his experience as a positive you have no other option if you want to stay with him if not this will drain you good luck!

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I honestly haven’t cared or thought about it. At the end of the day, he chose me and has never wavered. Even with the amount of women he was with before me. It comes down to whether you trust him. He went through his “sex phase” or whatever you want to call it but I just don’t care. It was before my time. We don’t talk about it. I don’t think about it.

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It's the past. You have to learn to not worry about that in relationships. I was a virgin before my boyfriend, and he wasn't. I honestly never even think about it

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When you get older, everyone has experience. So it gets easier with time. But right now I would think about the underlying feelings behind this. Usually jealousy and insecurity (both rooted in feelings of inadequacy). And remind yourself that having less experience doesn’t make you inferior or inadequate in any way. You are good enough just as you are, even without as much experience. He doesn’t care about the people in his past, he cares about you.

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Unless he’s got std or sti or something that actually affects you, I have no issue. I’d prefer someone that know what he’s doing rather than fumbling around and lasts two minutes. My partner was an athlete in high school and college and was popular with the ladies. He’s the only man that can keep up with me. He is amazing at controlling his penis. He’s 59, I’m 43. Unless you are running into people he’s had sex with frequently, I would not stress it. Everyone has some kind of past. No one is perfect.

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I was going to say I'd be intimidated if they were more experienced... but honestly more experience in terms of numbers doesn't actually mean they're good at anything 🙃 they may have tried more, though, or not. It depends.
Regardless, I wouldn't worry about it, it's in the past and doesn't really effect your current relationship. I'd explore why you feel upset by this when it gets brought up. What exactly bothers you? Is it touching in some insecurity? 
It might help you know what to do if you get to the root of it.

How do you deal with your partner having more sexual experience than you?

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