Would you be upset poll

Hey guys. I couldn’t edit the update. I posted a poll asking if you would be upset if your at a rehearsal dinner for a wedding and my 26 year old partner said his friends lil sister would be “ so fucking hot” if she wasnt fat.

Anyway, update on that is after we left. I broke down into tears and confronted him. I was in pure shock hearing him say that. I’m chunky I’m not some skinny girl either. I’m against body shaming, I even told him after him and his friends were talking about how “ obsese” she was that she is a beautiful girl regardless of her weight and that’s when he made the comment of if she was skinny she’d be so fucking hot. The rest of the rehearsal I stayed to myself, I was still friendly and nice to people but I just was so bothered. He said I embarrassed him bc everyone could “ tell” something was wrong. Which I think is just his own guilt bc he knew what he was so fucked up. He apologized at FIRST. He said “ sorry I didn’t even mean it in that kind of way I meant she’d be more attractive” which makes that NO better. When he saw I wasn’t all forgiving and happy he lost his shit. Called his narcissistic toxic mother and they both started just screaming at me! She was saying it’s like his little sister I’m a sick fuck for thinking it was wrong, I’m crazy. How mentally fucked up I am for being upset over him saying that when clearly it wasn’t what he meant. All they kept saying is “ It’s Sam for god sake, fucking Sam your going crazy over fucking Sam” ( that’s the young girls name ) he said “ you think ID go fuck my little sister you crazy ass woman “ “ you wanna get married yet this is how you act and behave” and he kept saying how He thinks I should be with someone else and how he is done with me bc I ruined his whole night how it’s our first time without our kids together in a long time and this is what I did to ruin it. Just I sat there and couldn’t even talk. I was in the front seat just crying my eyes out bc how mentally and emotionally abusive it all was. There was so much stuff said I still feel like I’m numb. I am currently sitting in the hotel room. We are 4 hours away from home unfortunately and have one car since he rode together. He’s at the ceremony thing since he’s apart of it. The wedding is tonight and I just don’t think I can mentally even go. He said if I don’t it’s gonna make him look bad and how he won’t let that happen. We have had our issues before but never like this. Im just so confused. I’m so lost. I’m scared. I don’t know what’s going on. I just know now I need to figure a plan and leave. I’m not going to say anything. I’m just gonna plan my leave from him. We do have kids together and I’m a stay at home mama so this is going to be hard. I’m also scared because how inflation is. I’m scared I won’t be able to afford it all on my own. Any advice would be amazing right now. Thank you