Work drama - surrounded by guys- need advice!!
Some background: Im 18 and have been working at a pizza restaurant for 9 months since I was 17. I only recently turned 18 and I'm the youngest in the restaurant as well as one of the only women. The other two women are in their 20's and dating an assistant manager and 30's married to the general manager.
I have a good relationship with most of my coworkers and I'm especially closer with an assistant mgr (R, male 25) and an ovens worker (J, male, R's uncle and in 40's.)
A few weeks ago a new guy (N, 23) started and I went on a vacation. When I came back N and I actually got to talk and instantly clicked and got along well (which I always kept friendly as I have no interest in him and the obvious age difference.) N had asked me if I ever wanted to match🍃 with him at his apartment and I wasn't going to be accusatory of anything and just basically said "okay" and him and I kept talking. We have never hung out outside of work and don't even ab eachother on social media. I told R ab his offer later.
The next day N and I are working together again, along with R and J. Throughout the shift, N and I were talking and laughing to pass time but N was very consistent in mostly just joking around with me and focusing a lot of his attention on me. Later that night R and J start to express the bad vibes they get from N. R described it as "ownership vibes" and multiple people claimed he was basically following me around and I agreed that it was a little weird but again, nothing to make a big deal or claim out of. R and J told me that after another manager and I had left the night before, N had made a mistake and they were getting busy and N started getting aggressive and throwing around things and just getting heated which threw up red flags for them. I wasn't there when it happened so I don't really know what happened. But..
Anyways, R takes it upon himself to text the general manager and ask to have N's hours cut because he's "creeping on" me and following me around. We have had a manager before who made three girls quit besides me due to his sexual harassment but I reported it because he did things that were actually reportable, so I think maybe R was just taking precaution in case something like that were to happen again. But still, he texted the GM and asked for N's hours to be cut because of this without even asking me and I'm annoyed that my coworkers are putting me in this victim place in their minds and I feel like maybe overstepping their bounds. I don't like this drama and I fear that my GM is gonna blame me for the drama when I think the situation isn't that big of a deal right now and don't feel like I have anything to report.
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