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this is what my boyfriend text me last night. a few days ago i mentioned something about how i felt fat. im 110 pounds.

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I’d rather have my bf call me out on being lazy and not working on myself than have him just tell me I’m perfect and that he’s happy with whatever I do. If I’m not in a relationship where we push each other to do better, then I don’t want it. My bf texts me randomly in the evenings and asks if I went to the gym yet. And if I say no, he will ask why etc and I give him a bs reason then he will push me. And vice versa, I do the same to him

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You feel fat but you’re only a 110? Are you for real?! Not being mean or anything but I don’t think that’s fat

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what did you want him to say? you said you felt fat. he suggested working out.

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Lmao I’m 5’8 and 220. Come on now. 110? You don’t have an ounce of fat on you.

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What he said is something I wish my ex would of done. Because every time I complained about my weight he just kept saying I didn't need to lose an ounce that I was just perfect the way I am. Which I love to hear but at the same time there was no motivation to push me to reach my goal. Instead I got super lazy and continued to gain weight.

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Leave him. My ex husband would do that shit and refused to listen to me when i told him women have some weight on them because we are naturally built that way. My current boyfriend tells me “good job” when i work out, and when i tell him i had a lazy day and didnt work out, he is chill and respectful with “its good to rest from working out”. Trust me, if he really cared, he wouldnt say “you WERE so motivated”

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Men are logical creatures who try to fix issues. You said you felt fat and he came up with a solution. You are not fat by any means but I think he was trying to help the problem and when you said you didn't want to it's confusing for him.

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I wouldn’t stay with anyone who said they’d leave me if I got fat. That’s not someone who actually loves you. And soooo many things can happen in life that are unpredictable and out of your control. If a little extra weight is all it would take for him to end things he definitely won’t stick around for anything actually bad or hard.

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I agree with B .. but 110 isn’t over weight at all girly depending on your height it may be underweight .

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I mean I know it’s hurtful but he prob just trying to push you. It can help. Maybe he wants u to feel happy about yourself and I would do the same for anyone I love too. Take the convo with some love witj it that’s all. I’m 109 feel same way. I do yoga and Pilates

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