My ex and I broke up 2 months ago with 2 really young babies. He was the most abusive person I know - abusive in every way possible and highly manipulative and narcissistic. Cheated multiple times. Gaslight me like crazy. Used his dad’s death as a way to control me because he knew I was close to him, saying things like “if you get a certain car brand, my dad will shake his head at you from heaven”. After our breakup, he (I’m assuming) had one of his friends act like she was on my side and then after his dad’s death they were weirdly friends and together all the time again. And the last time I saw him he told me that his dad’s death made him want to kill himself and then choked me and then told me that if I keep the kids from him, he’ll kill me. Then as I was moving, locked me out of our kids’ belongings twice and thought it was funny. Afterwards, he also had a coworker act like he was against him and the coworker also played mind games and tried to lure me and the kids to a hotel. I called him out. I called him out and blocked him. Then the following week, I was adding people on Facebook and added someone who was mutual friends with my cousin, my brother’s girlfriend, and my ex’s ex. She was crazy too but hated him because he did the same thing to her. So he messaged me and said I sounded and looked familiar but he doesn’t know where from. He added me on Snapchat and we’ve been talking for a month. But this guy seems weird too but I can’t tell if he’s just a piece of shit in general or if it’s a connection. If I leave him on open, he gets upset or will text me and say “come back :(“. Is jealous of my friends. He’s told me that he loves me. But then won’t meet.

Things that make me think it’s a connection:

* he knew I didn’t have a license before I told him

* he said “if you need anything call me” which is something his coworker said too

* I feel he plays mind games and plays victim - both things my ex did

* I told him I was worried he was connected to my ex and he calmly just said no. But I feel like anyone who was accused of being tied to a weird and wasn’t would be more upset

Things that make me think there isn’t:

* It was a random add and I added him - not vice Versa

* I posted a picture of my brother and he got upset thinking it was my ex (…. Unless that was intentional??)