Please read the whole thing I need your honest advice.

I’m currently pregnant with baby #3. I have two toddlers. My fiancé (father of my children) hardly helps me around the house. He will leave his clothes everywhere. He will ask me to do the laundry when something of his isn’t washed (the very odd time will bye actually do a load), he leaves the Kitchen a disaster, or if he sees the house is a mess from the kids very rarely will he ever clean it.

I am super overwhelmed. I have anxiety. I am pregnant and exhausted. Like so so tired. I have zero motivation. I am just getting over feeling nauseous everyday, but now I have daily headaches. I am struggling basically.

He tuns his own business so he can choose his own hours. He goes to the gym almost everyday (he doesn’t even tell me about it anymore because he doesn’t want to hear it from me) and he smokes weed every night. So I get frustrated because he says he doesn’t have time to help me yet he has all this time to do the things he wants to do for himself while I’m struggling over here and don’t do a thing for myself.

Just today, I was having a realllllly bad day. He only had a job to look at today. I was a mess today. He knew it. I kept crying to him. I was exhausted and overwhelmed. Again, I’m pregnant so my emotions are all messed up. Instead of just going to that one job to look at and coming home and helping me or letting me rest, he went to the gym. He didn’t even tell me about it until I asked. Then when he came home he asked me to cook, I told him I’m not feeling the greatest today and if he could, he said he didn’t want to. So I did. He unloaded the dishwasher. The whole rest of the house is a mess and didn’t bother to help me with that. He sat down. Ate. And then that was it. We ended up in an argument because tomorrow he has to leave the house extra early because he has to go the doctor to get a form. Which he had a week to do so, not to mention he could have went today instead of the gym. I’m frustrated because I really don’t feel good and was looking forward to getting a bit of rest time tomorrow.

I am getting fed up and feel unappreciated because he doesn’t seem to help when he can. But whenever he does to the odd thing he will throw it in my face later as say he helps.

When I tried to explain to him that I really need help and he’s not helping and how when I’m not feeling great he’s fully capable of cooking and cleaning he lost it on me. Told me that I see stupid shit on instagram that’s not real that no man does this. That he doesn’t ask me to work. He was screaming at me calling me selfish and stupid he told me I’m crazy and psychotic that I want to dictate his ever move and my mom is over so she heard everything.

I asked him to please just leave me alone a million times while crying. He kept saying no he doesn’t want to fight. Then said why the fuck is everything so dramatic. I’m not asking for much. And walked away. I’m now hyperventilating in my room. Am I wrong?