He's talking to a girl

Hello.

I did something I shouldn't have, but I had a feeling.

I got a feeling that my husband was talking to someone l, so I went through his instagram DM's and found that he's chatting with some girl that lives in England (she followed him first, we live in Spain).

They are having "friendly" chats, nothing flirty but still, I don't like it. Like, asking how their day is, what they work, she sent him a photo of her laptops to show her work.

He initiated conversation once, but its mostly her.

It's like chatting to getting to know someone, and given that this is how my relationship with him started, I'm not liking this.

He has picture with me on his feed and I'm sure she has seen that he has a wife. I'm so tempted to write to that b*tch from my account to tell her to f*ck off.

I'm so mad. Why is my husband chatting up with this girl?

I don't know what to do.

I think I'll try to stay quiet, and If I see that it scales, I will have a serious talk with him that he either respects me or I'm filling for divorce.

EDIT ONE: NO. HE DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT HER. HE DIDN'T SAY A WORD. NO. THAT'S WHY I'M ALSO SO MAD! I saw him acting weird with his phone that's why I got suspicious. If she's just a friend, why not telling me about it?

Edit two: I guess I will take pictures to have them as proof.

RECENT EDIT:

I noticed he was talking to her at 4 AM, with me "sleeping" next to him, and writing to her as soon as he woke up!

when he fell asleep again, I snooped again to see if everything was actually friendly or not, among many other things she told him they should talk more when she Wales up and he had sent her "I send you a kiss. Well... maybe two 🤔".

So no, girls, I wasn't being toxic. This shit is not something you do and hide from your partner.

After reading those messages all hell broke loose, and I woke him up and told him to sit down because we needed to talk. I told him that yes, I had to do something I didn't want to, because I felt he had been hiding something from me the past few days.

That I battled with myself for days but I finally succumbed because I simply couldn't shake the feeling off, only to find that I was right. I told him I went through his DMs and asked if he would like me to chat at 3 or 4 in the morning with the many men that text me through social media, and I he would like me to send them kisses, just as he was doing, instead of actually ignoring them, as I always do because I respect my marriage.

I told him that he clearly doesn't respect me for doing that, because there's no reason to get all flirty with some random bimbo of internet.

I asked him if that was actually the respect he had for his wife.

I'm not going to tolerate this kind of b*llshit, because had he had innocent intentions, he would have told me from the very beginning. Why hiding it? When you hide sh*t, it's because it's something you shouldn't be doing.

Anyways, he gave me some explanations, apologized and blocked her.

Still, this is a stain. I don't see him as I used to, because now I'm doubting about other things, and because now I'm sure that if I hadn't confronted him, he'd be still talking to her for months behind my back. Kind of "you are only sorry because you got caught". So my trust in him is gone for the moment.

Another edit: thanks to all the girls that understood my point instead of calling me toxic.

I still have many things to tell him about this, and I'll make emphasis in "another bullshit like this and I'm gone from your life, and even from the country". So, to the girls who think I'm toxic: grow up and stand your ground because you'll are headed to the getting-cheated-on highway. Stop making excuses for men's stupid behaviors.

It will never be okay to do what my husband did.

Edit for the pregnant princess that replied: (sorry I don't directly reply to you all, I just want to keep this as anon as possible).

I'm so sorry you are going through that while being pregnant. I absolutely understand you, this is a horrible feeling that shatters all trust and respect. Men think that cheating is just having sex with another woman, and it goes a lot beyond that.

Please don't let him disrespect you, even if you are pregnant. You deserve better.