Rant!!!!

The latest fight is about my husbands sisters. I love them to death, they are great women and I admire them a lot. When it comes to the kids, however, I am constantly battling to be heard and understood when it comes to how I want to raise them. I find myself constantly being ignored when I want to do things a certain way with my kids and they'll just go ahead and do what they feel is right. I made the mistake of telling my husband this and he responded telling me that he didn't like my family either and that he feels like they don't like him. The conversation wasn't productive. I understood his point of view, I feel that as his wife I should defend him and if my family is being unreasonable I need to be the middle man to advocate for him while not chasing additional problems with my family. But the fact that he dismissed me so quickly and said that he has a say in his kids that I can't decide on my own and that his family has done so much for me that my family hasn't done anything for me. I never said that they didn't, that wasn't even my message. I feel like decisions need to be made between US, not US AND HIS FAMILY. I'm grateful for their help, but my main point was completely misunderstood and blown out of proportion and now here I am ranting about how pissed I am. It's like I'm going to have to bottle up these feelings I guess...