Should we be expected to pay for these things for someone else’s wedding?

Okay so my partner and I have been asked to be a part of our friends wedding so bridesmaid and groomsmen which is great and we’re so excited for them. But now we are expected to pay for so many things that we just can’t afford right now due to me being on maternity leave and only having enough income for us to be get by each week without worries.

I’m having to pay for my hair, makeup, shoes. And my partner is having to pay for his suit, shoes, hair/beard trim. So all this is adding up to $1500+ and that’s not including our babysitter that we will also need. So we’ve let them know that we can’t attend the bucks night and hens night because we can’t afford it and they’re mad at us.

They’ve also planned this wedding in two months, so we haven’t had time to prepare for all these extra expenses.

We were okay with paying for a few things but over the last few weeks they’ve just added more things.

I don’t feel like they should be mad at us for being honest about our financial situation, right?