Parents and LD BF

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 years now. Throughout these three years we’ve been long-distance. We’ve made it work by trying to visit each other at least once every six months, but we usually see each other every 2 to 3 months. my boyfriend is also a year younger than me, I am in 19 and he’s 18. When I told my parents about my boyfriend in the beginning, both of them said it wasn’t going to last. I really didn’t feel alone as I didn’t even have anyone to turn to regarding my relationship. That was all fine and I learn to live with it especially since my boyfriends mom is super sweet and I’m always able to talk to her about things.

I’m planning on seeing him over this weekend. I bought my ticket over a month in advance and I told my mom about it. She gave me the OK to purchase it and now I’m planning to go. My flight is tomorrow and yesterday both of my parents started to give me crap about it. Especially my dad. He says that What I’m doing is wrong, since I’m a girl. He keeps saying that it seems like I am chasing him and running after him, and doing what a girl shouldn’t do. He then starts to say things like “what will people think?”, “how will they see you?”, etc.

It makes me feel really bad since he’s making it seem like I’m doing some thing horrible. My boyfriend surprised me with a visit a month ago and it was really sweet and I thought it would only be fair for me to go see him now. I’m trying not to worry about what both of my parents are saying, but it’s really hard. It always feels like I’m fighting a battle with them and like I don’t have anybody on my side.

And it’s not like they don’t like my boyfriend. He’s super sweet, he’s super calm, and both of them really like talking to him.

Whenever I try to talk to my parents about the things they say, and tell them that I don’t care what other people think of me because I know who I am, they go crazy. They say that people think it’s wrong and it’s just not what a women should do. I’m just trying to go to see my boyfriend and spend a nice weekend with him. Is that really so bad?

Sorry for the rant but I guess I’m just trying to see what other people think of this. Should I feel ashamed for this?

It really sucks not having parents that try to see my point of you. It always feels like they’re ganging up against me :(