My parents don't think I feed my kids well... I WORK SO HARD TO FEED THEM WELL‼️‼️

My parents act like they don't believe me when I say I feed my kids well. They base it off the one or two times they saw them eat - for example, a bowl of macaroni for dinner. Now they're concerned they don't eat well EVER. They're skinny but THEIR MOTHER IS SKINNY TOO. The kids are extremely energetic and burn every calorie they consume. They are happy, smart, don't look pale, etc. They've been on the same growth curve and never deviated from it. I'm tired of defending myself to them. They know how stressed I get feeding them but I feed them their veggies, fruit, peotein, etc. They say "okayyy......" and "well I HOPE you are feeding them well......." How would you feel? I tell them the things I feed them. And besides, the kids act differently around their grandparents anyways. I tell them well now you make me look like a bad mom. They said I didn't say that... ok but you acted like it.

I am insulted. I am hurt. I said bye and walked out the door because of how they made me feel. This was yesterday. I haven't heard from them. Everytime we fight though, I'm the one who always has to say something first. They would ignore me till the end of time if it weren't for me saying something first. It always seems like they think they're right and they're never wrong. I don't get why they can't reach out to me when they KNOW I'm upset and try to make it right, especially for the sake of their grandkids.

When I express my feelings before, they would say I'm overreacting or just being sensitive. I don't feel like I'm allowed to have feelings. I'm being gaslighted. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IN MY SHOES??