We’ll start with this. My fiancé (20) and I (17) had a kid while I was in my teens (16 & 19) after dating for +5 years and a forced ovulation. We are a little bit older now and he has grown into a FANTASTIC dad since then. He always makes sure we have what we need, BUT always comes to a standstill around his mother because of the way she acts.

Lately we lost our apartment because his job fired him after his car engine died and they refused to give him a little time (2 weeks if that) to find another vehicle. Our landlord decided he’d file for eviction after rent was 10 days late AFTER we gave him half the rent with money we didn’t even have at the time. His mother offered us the basement of her house and we would’ve moved out within 4 months with him working 6 days a week and bringing home over 600 each week. This was the plan. So we took the deal because it was one of our only options besides traveling 13 hours to Florida with our infant.

Now that we’re here it hasn’t gone how she said it would, she hasn’t stuck to a single part of the deal. When he brings home his checks, mama is there to snatch them up and forces us to “pay off what we owe” before we can even get back on our feet. We had plans to do this anyways but how are we supposed to get back up if she takes every cent we have?! She tells us that she’ll pay for the stuff we need BUT we’ll need to pay her back later on?! She’s constantly belittling us, telling us we’re the following while BEING the following.

- Immature • I kid you not she once threw a fit because I told her no shoes on my daughter after she had blisters on her feet and stomped away saying that the party pictures weren’t happening. She had a kid at 20 and still acts 13.

- Lazy • she comes home from work and immediately thinks that we’ll do everything for her including cleaning, getting her stuff that’s RIGHT AT THE EDGE OF HER BED WHERE SHES LAYING, if she eats an apple she’ll leave it on the counter ignoring the fact that the trash can is RIGHT next to her. But if I am kept up by my baby until 4 and get up at 7 for fiancés alarm and baby wakes up at 8, doesn’t nap, wants to be played with all day and I clean a good portion of her house plus not going to bed until my baby does “I’m being lazy and I didn’t do anything all day. “

- Slobs • she’ll make a huge mess and scream at us (me, fiancé, fiancés sister (13) and brother (16) to clean it because she worked all day. If it’s not done then and there she screams and calls us slobs while stomping around the kitchen and throwing shit into its place. If she does the dishes (once a year 😒) she literally rinses them off and you can tell. She throws her clothes on the floor and tells her daughter to clean it.

- Overreactive • if we get sick, like my daughter and I am now, she tells us “it’s not that bad” and that im overreacting. We’re both running fevers in the 100s, my daughter’s tonsils are swollen (she’s 10 months), I can’t swallow without nearly puking, I can’t stand for longer than 3 minutes without losing balance and nearly passing out.

- Controlling & manipulative • she cals ME controlling and manipulative. Apparently I control her son and manipulate him into doing what I want him to do. “I’m currently manipulating her daughter to talk back to her and have opinions of her own because apparently she’s not allowed those.” Yeah, that’s my fault completely. She tells the family that I baby trapped him and so on. If we don’t do what she wants she holds everything she’s done against us. She’ll argue with my fiancé for HOURS on end and belittle him for not agreeing with her. She thinks just because she speaks Spanish and I don’t that her 13 and 16 year old aren’t going to tell me the shit she says.

- Bad parents • “we’re doing everything wrong. She should be eating more, wearing warmer clothes, eating her food sensitivities so they go away and putting a blanket on her when she sleeps.” My 10 month old is eating 8 ounces a bottle, baby food, baby snacks and eats whatever we have. We’ve been told she’s growing PERFECTLY! According to MIL, my daughter is always cold and that I forced cold temperatures on her. Because totally, I can control the factor that I was hot during the whole pregnancy and had the ac in the window all winter and how I’d hive when I was sweating even though I had no previous connections to hives beforehand. My daughter LOVES “cold”temperatures, 60- 68, sleeps perfectly in them. But nope, “she’s cold, always. Should have a sweater on in 70 degree weather and pants on 24/7 to prevent her from being cold. Her hives are from the cold 100%.” You know it’s bad when your 10 month old gets hives from 70 degree weather. My daughter can’t have honey, peas, and watermelon. She thinks that she should be given these so it’ll go away. SHE HAS A LIFE THREATENING ALLERGY TO WATERMELON! She tries to give her everything she can’t have, including lactose because lactose intolerance isn’t real (both baby and I have). I think we all know about safe sleep. BUT her kids, Oml. I’m surprised CPS hasn’t showed up. She very obviously favors the 16 year old, he doesn’t have to clean, he can antagonize anybody with no consequences, he smokes week and she knows it but won’t do anything about it besides keep quiet, refuses to pick up after himself and even throwing shit into other rooms to get out of it which she allows and pretends she doesn’t see. The 13 year old is bluntly depressed, Has cuts on her arm from half a year ago, constantly crying in her room and mourning her dad who she can’t talk about because of the favored child, constantly told to clean the kitchen,bathroom, and her moms room. Her daughter apparently looks like a hobo in jeans and a regular shirt so she buys her tight clothing and crop tops to look nice, forces makeup on her, accuses her of wearing makeup to school and will ground her with no proof, forces her to hang out with cousins who bully her. She allows her boyfriend to tell her kids to shut up and basically puts him over them. My fiancé is considered the failure because he didn’t follow her rules and moved out at 18. She canceled his college loan because he wouldn’t clean up after them after being away for a week. Keeps constantly calling the kids dumbasses etc. Despite all this she still tries to spoil them as if she never did these things in the first place although my fiancé cannot spend money on himself at all.

I literally don’t know how people deal with this women. I grew up with my mom who was pretty much always reasonable.

Here MIL makes me feel unwanted while telling me that she tries to make me feel like I belong. She always has some complain about me. Acts like my daughter is hers because apparently I can’t do motherly duties. She cut her hair at 6 months and now we can’t do anything with it because it’s uneven and even made plans to cut it again! I honestly just needed to rant, I don’t want to bad mouth my fiancés mother to him even though he rants about her sometimes.

I haven’t felt myself since we got here. She tells me that my fertility issues are just a lie so I can pump out kids I won’t take care of. (Endo in the tubes and stomach, scaring and a block in tubes too. Was told I’d need them tied by no later than 20) Shes constantly telling everybody that I’m faking everything. The whole family calls me a lost puppy at events because I follow my fiancé around because it’s the only way I feel comfortable being around them. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be around them either if they were constantly insulting you. I just can’t with them.