Sooo... Im pregnant with my first baby a boy. I live in a different state then my bfs family (4hours away) he lives with me and has been for almost 3 years now. His family tries to be involved with baby boy as far as messaging me and asking how we're doing. His sister wants to make our son a blanket and they want us to come down for Thanksgiving and have a little celebration for us and the baby.

I have no problems with his family and wouldn't mind going down there! We have gone down to visit a few times over the past two years. But now my bf said no he doesn't want to see his family because he said they left him homeless before he came to live with me and he holds grudges. His mom and her bf argue constantly over literally everything. Last time we were there for literally less then a day they were arguing my bf said "I'm already ready to go home". He doesn't call his mom or his family even though I encourage him to. Our babyshower was last weekend and I told his sisters and family they are more then welcome to come. (With my bfs permission) I even invited them to the event months before hand. After the event was over his mom made a post on FB about how she was heartbroken none of his family were there to support him and how she wished she knew sooner so she could've come.

His mom wants me to video call her for baby boys last ultrasound on Wednesday but my bf said no. I feel bad like we're excluding his side of the family when they want to be involved but I feel it's not my place to respond or reach out when my bf claims he doesn't even want to see or talk to them. They keep asking if we're coming down for the holiday and that they really want to put together a celebration for the baby and I don't know how to respond so I don't. My bf is the only boy he has all sisters and he was definitely his mom's carbon copy. His mom also made a post about how she wishes her son would call her and it's like her son forgot about her.

I guess I just needed to vent but I still feel bad.

More info:

My bf does smoke weed but works and pays bills here enough to cover the bills and his habits. He does have manic depression and uses weed to help with that. When he lived with his mom and her bf they wanted him to not only pay rent but pay for any water he used and any food he ate. Which left him like no money so instead he payed people to let him crash for a few days on their couch. None of his family or sisters reached out to help even though they knew he was homeless. I definitely do think he should have payed rent I just don't think they should've asked for basically his whole check leaving him with nothing. So he is holding grudges against his family and his mom was an alcoholic and he had to take care of her while he was in highschool so I think that he may hold some resentment against his mom for that and his dad is in prison.