I suffered with really bad depression and anxiety disorder for years. I had no one. I was a single teen parent and struggled so bad. I was on meds for over ten years.

I finally got to a place where I no longer needed meds and could see a bright future.

I met someone things were great. We had a child together (my depression and anxiety started to creep back in) however knowing everything from before and the signs etc I was able to figure things out quickly to stop it grabbing hold of me. I’ve done well considering.

My partner and I have been on the rocks for a while but our communication is getting better so slowly we are improving however my partner has been getting quite down and depressed which will last sometimes up to a week then he fine again.

I’ve advised doctors, techniques etc but he don’t want to help himself. He would rather smoke weed constantly and when he can’t afford it that’s usually when he gets depressed.

Am I wrong for wanting to distance myself from him when he gets like this? I fear his moods are and will drag me back into my dark place!

I love him and want to help and I’ve tried but he pushes me away which then causes my anxiety to creep in.

Like I said this will last a couple days or so and then he back to feeling great.

What should I be doing? I also have my children to think of and try to stay out the house and do fun things with them when he gets in these moods/states and I’ve seen first hand the damage of a parent with depression and anxiety causes (my oldest child literally went through it with me-bless her and now has a lot of issues herself)

Any advice? Please be kind I’m just asking what’s the best thing I should be doing