Does the amount of kids you want, align with your spouse?

When we met we discussed our expectations for kids. I said I wanted 2-3 and he said he wanted 2-3. We have 2 and I really want another in a couple years. We discussed potentially being done while I was pregnant with #2. But the second he was born I had this over whelming feeling that I knew that wasn’t the last time I was going to give birth. I even looked into being a surrogate because he wants to be done and I just felt in my soul I’d do it again. But I can’t be a surrogate because I had a transplant. I don’t feel like it’s unfair because we set the expectation 6 years ago when we met. But obviously you don’t really compromise on a baby… I would like the 3rd to come in like 3-5 years. Our son is only one so I simply asked him to wait to get the vasectomy until we can assess in a couple years. Overall it’s his body, but I’m allowed to be upset I think. I’m allowed to grieve. I’m just at the point where honestly I’d have 2 more. I sometimes wish we were on the same page with that. Anyone else relate?