Baby Shower Mom Guilt

Cadence

Hey guys. So I'm due with Baby #2 in late June of 2023. I had my daughter in January 2021. They have different dads and this baby's dad and his family are not involved. My daughter's dad and his family... aren't also that involved in her lie and never really have been. With her, I didn't get a baby shower or gender reveal or anything because nobody thought I deserved one even though they gave my SIL one. I have some coworkers, that are also my daughter's teachers, (I work at a daycare) that want to throw me a gender reveal party and a baby shower. It's super sweet and I love that they're thinking of us like that, I just feel guilty about it. I don't want to do more for this baby and have my daughter grow up later in life thinking I didn't want her or care enough to do those things. Is that wrong? I'm not sure what to do. Would having those things for this baby make me a bad mom or look like I have a favorite? I'm a single mom so if I can get as many gifts as possible for my kids from others I will take them.