My mom every Christmas does the tree ever since I was a child I wanted to hang the ornaments but she would cringe and say no it doesn't go there and I would decorate it and she would remove every ornament and decorate it herself. She asked me to garden with her and I planted the tomato plants to the ground and she dug them up and put them where she wanted them there was nothing wrong with them just she wanted them to be how she placed it in her mind and I've seen her get like this it's like an evil; she sees me clean oh not like that like this do I have to do everything myself and it's destructive it's like you can't do anything yourself she makes you feel incapable of doing anything and like a two faced person saying it's okay when to her it's not and it's this she doesn't clean but when I clean she has to zero in like it reminds me of people who move furniture and it has to be perfect in the exact centimeter where she chooses and I'm tired of it.

What do I do about everything?

she says no one does anything but I do yet it upsets her and she re does it again it's madness years the pantry gross disgusting I clean it arrange it she suddenly after years complaining starts going through what I cleaned. Also I don't know if it's she has to outdo me like it's competitive if I cook great she has to do something bigger if I buy a present she has to buy a better present if I decorate she has to do it better and my niece was decorating the Christmas tree 🎄 and the grandmother aka perfectionist says this is all a mess it looks terrible and she says she's going to do it herself and take everything down and is bossing me to clean everything up and I'm just like what is going on with this woman. What is going on with her