Okay so I’m a ways away but I just am so nervous about all of this due to the unwavering nature of my toddlers…nocturnalism. Since she was born she’s been a horrible sleeper. 45 minute bursts as a newborn, 1am bedtimes and wake-up’s would last 3 hours, sleep trained for about 6 months but still had a late bedtime like 930 or 10, then once she escaped her crib and we switched to a toddler bed all hell broke loose. We’ve done every trick in the book and they only work for a few weeks at a time, it always leads back to her having a 1030 or 11pm bedtime and needing us to be in there for her to fall asleep. Even with pediatrician recommended melatonin she still slept like crap. She’s almost 3 and I’ve given up hope that there is a fix, she’s just a night owl, there’s nothing I can do.

So my question is, how do I navigate this when i have a newborn? Ideally I’d like to not have this same situation with the new baby and get them to the normal 8pm bedtime that I envy from afar….but my vampire toddler is going to wake them up. And she’s going to wake up when the baby wakes up. And I’m never going to sleep. Ever.

In case you can’t tell it was a really hard night with the toddler (actually it’s 11:45 and I just switched out with my husband because I gave up) and im having a freak out about how on earth this is possible. We both work full time I don’t have the luxury of sleeping during the day, etc. has anyone had a similar experience?