I know I complain on here a lot but this is literally my only place to vent. I got my boyfriends ex wife a Christmas present. Iv been with my boyfriend 4 years, she’s never gotten me anything, she will buy my son something every year though and Iv never bought her anything. This year her oldest had a baby. First grandbaby in the family so I bought a customized ornament to celebrate it. I received it in the mail yesterday. Sent a message to the family group chat that has all the kids, their mom and an aunt who we spend a lot of time with because I remembered one of the older kids saying they hadn’t gotten their tree up yet. So I sent a message asking if their tree was up they sent me a picture of the tree I told them I had a gift for their mom but it was really late at this point so we left it at that. I physically called their mom after I got out of work today, already had the present wrapped and in my car and explained that I wanted her to open it early and asking if I could drop it off. I had a couple other errands to run and had to get my son from daycare so I handed it to her and explained I had to run. She said thank you and that was it. But idk she hasn’t texted me anything and not so much her but the kids especially my oldest haven’t texted me to even be like “it’s cute” or something. And I know I sound super whiny and if I say something to my boyfriend he’s just gonna be like “well don’t buy ppl things then if you expect a thank you.” And not even really a thank you just an acknowledgment woulda been nice. And it’s not just this, I made a separate group chat with ex wife, oldest daughter, second oldest daughter (our family photographer), and aunt and asked for pics of the grandbaby so I could get my oldest a custom picture blanket, like my mom did for me when I had my son and like I did for my sister in law when she had her son and literally only my oldest sent pics. No one else. And earlier in the year I found against a custom art piece for their grandma, who is very much involved in their lives. And I wanted to order it early before it went up in price during the holiday season. It was perfect, needed exactly as many pictures as we have kids. So I texted the big group chat like “hey I need everyone’s favorite selfie/picture of themselves for this present for grandma.” And again like one person responded. Wasn’t even able to order it because I couldn’t find a usable pic of everyone in my camera roll. Idk I just feel like I go all out for my boyfriends side of the family because they are the ones we live by and see all the time and it’s not reciprocated. I know I’m not close to my family and they live far but literally they get gift cards because we spend all our money on his family, and celebrating with his family. But I can’t even get a text back. Idk I know I’m whining I just feel very meh this holiday season.