Hi everyone, I had a question about what do women in general do to show appreciation to there husbands or boyfriends when they are stay at home moms and don’t earn any money to give presents or take them out or do anything really except to be at home. The way I show my appreciation to my boyfriend is to cook dinner, give him a small massage on his back every night when he goes to bed and sometimes a foot massage. I support his ideas and I give him my love every time I can. But he says that I don’t appreciate him enough because I sometimes don’t want to give him a back massage when he goes to bed. I feel like he recents me for not wanting to do it every night. And it’s true I really don’t want to do it “Every”night he is home because I am tired some nights and my baby co-sleeps with us and wants to be on the breast until she falls asleep. I told him I am tired, I just finished wrapping the Xmas presents and so I said to him a sarcastic comment that if he would have helped me wrapped them then I wouldn’t be going to bed all late and tired. He then proceeded to say I don’t appreciate his hard work because I always give him push back when it comes to his massage. He says he is a trucker and that his job is mentally draining and physically as well and that I don’t understand how stressful it is for him. (Mined you he also has a huge credit card debt he has accumulated over the years and just a few months ago we moved into a manufactured home that needs fixing and he has another property that he also is paying on as well) so I told him I do understand he is stressed out and wants me to show him I appreciate his hard work and that I understand that he is doing and dealing with everything for us as a family but I have days where I am also tired mentally and physically. But he dosent want to understand me or be empathetic at all. It’s starting to make me doubt what he is saying I feel like he is hiding something from me. Maybe he wants out of the relationship because of the stress he even said that he wanted to just give up on everything because of my attitude with him. So what do you guys think am I being unappreciative or does he have a point??