EDIT TO ADD: I'm glad that I received mixed responses. I understand that men and women both watch/make porn. One thing that I read is a lot of is women telling me that their spouse isn't mentally cheating on them by watching porn, and that's fine for you. I expressed the way I felt about it. The real question is WHY do you or your spouse watch it? & for the ones telling me that he isn't imagining himself as the guy, those were his words lol. I wouldn't have stated it if he hadn't said it. That's all!

I'm really trying to be okay with the thought of my spouse watching porn. I've tried having conversations about it, to understand the "why" behind it. Other than the fact that it can be labeled as "hot" and a "quick get off". I know people watch it for different reasons: new ideas and/or to fantasize about being with the person in the video. My question is how are you okay with knowing that your spouse is mentally cheating on you? Because that's what it is to me. My spouse would rather watch porn and imagine that he's the guy banging someone else. I know, you can laugh all you want but I'm honestly just trying to understand it all. Is it really not that deep? To me, I feel that if you're mentally there then what's stopping you physically?